中西方家庭教育差异的英语演讲

中西方家庭教育差异的英语演讲

篇一：中西方家庭教育观念差异

（一）看重日常生活行为和习惯

●西方家长：从小教起从日常教起

西方家长重视从日常行为与情感中对孩子进行“做人的教育”，注重从内心情感去尊重别人，看重的是日常生活的行为与习惯的培养。

●中国家长：忽视了“做人的教育”

而我国家长和幼儿教师往往脱离孩子心理发展的实际，例如幼儿园时就提出爱国主义、革命英雄主义、伟大理想主义的教育，忽视基础的行为习惯、良好的人际交往等与孩子发展阶段相适应的“做人的教育”。

我们一直谈教育要循序渐进，这不仅适用于智力教育、知识教育，同样适合于做人做事的道德教育。现在我们的孩子道德观念淡漠，社会性发展差，这与家长忽视对孩子最基础的“做人教育”不无关系。

（二）让孩子学会独立

●西方家长：让孩子自己动手学会独立

西方家长一般都相信孩子具有自我反省和教育的能力，

孩子要自己劳做，自己生活，从劳做中得到快乐，从动手中获得各种知识，学习各种技能。孩子能做到的，就让他自己做，这是对孩子的尊重。

比如在西方有很多这样的情形：父亲或母亲在前面走，刚刚学会走路的孩子跟在后面走。他们认为这对孩子独立性的培养十分重要。

●中国家长：层层保护种种溺爱

中国的家长生怕孩子磕着碰着，往往要抱着或拉着孩子走。

（三）让孩子自然发展

●西方家长：让孩子自由发展

西方人巴望孩子成名成家的观念相对比较淡薄，他们并不煞费苦心地设计孩子的未来，而是注重孩子的自由发展，努力把孩子培养成为能够适应各种环境，具备独立生存能力的社会人。

他们的家庭教育是以培养孩子富有开拓精神、能够成为一个自食其力的人为出发点的。

基于这种观念，西方国家的很多家庭都十分重视孩子从小的自身锻炼。他们普遍认为，孩子的成长必须靠自身的力

量，因此从小就培养和锻炼孩子的自立意识和独立生活能力。例如从孩子小时候就让他们认识劳动的价值，让孩子自己动手修理、装配摩托车，分担家里的割草、粉刷房屋、简单木工修理等活计。此外，还要外出当杂工，如夏天替人推割草机、冬天铲雪、秋天扫落叶等。西方孩子从小就从事的送报等劳动，本身就是一种吃苦精神的磨炼。在寒冷的冬天，当中国的同龄孩子还在热被窝里熟睡时，西方孩子早已起来挨家挨户去送报了。

这在娇惯子女的中国家长看来可能有些“残忍”，而正是这看似“残忍”的教育，造就了西方孩子独立自强的生活本领。在这种潜移默化的过程中，孩子逐渐成长为具有独立生存能力和社会责任感的公民。

●中国家长：期望过高只重学习

中国的许多家长望子成龙心切，因而超越孩子实际水平的高要求、拔苗助长的教育方式、恨铁不成钢的态度在家庭里到处弥漫。

在孩子的成长过程中，除生活上加倍关心外，家长最关心的是孩子的学习。为使孩子学习成绩好，将来“光宗耀祖”，学习之外的事情家长都不让孩子干，似乎学习好就是万能的，而对孩子的独立生活能力、社会适应能力、心理健康程度、道德情操以及公民意识等则关心甚少，有的甚至完

全不顾。从孩子出生到成年，家长几乎把孩子的一切都包了下来，做饭、洗衣服、打扫、攒钱供孩子读大学、出国、结婚、养儿育女等。

尽管我们的家长都希望孩子成才、幸福，而这样的家庭教育既不可能令孩子成才，也难以让孩子得到幸福，因为社会的竞争，决不仅仅是知识和智能的较量，更多的是意志、心理状态和做人的比拼。

（四）重视和孩子的心灵沟通

●西方家长：经常沟通重视心理健康

西方的家长更加重视孩子健康心理的培养，因而很注意与孩子的情感交流，关心孩子的心理需要。

家长把快乐教育作为一项重要的教育内容来实施。他们经常和孩子一起讨论问题，孩子遇到不顺心的事也愿意跟家长商量。

心理学的研究表明，健康的心理对于孩子的成才和健康人格的塑造至关重要。

●中国家长：更关心生理需求而忽视心理需求

然而，现实生活中我国不少家长的做法却正好相反，他们日常生活中对子女的关心基本上集中在孩子的生理需

要方面，很少关心甚至根本无视孩子的心理需求，忽视孩子健康心理的培养和性格、意志的磨炼。

其结果是在相当程度上导致了孩子的心理承受能力过低，以至经不起生活中的压力和挫折，即使是一件小事也能使他沮丧、颓废、自暴自弃，动辄离家出走，甚至轻生厌世。此类事件近几年各媒体屡有报道，这些大部分都是家庭教育水平低下的结果，更确切地说是家长忽视对孩子健康心理的培养而造成的悲剧。

（五）孩子需要尊重和理解

●西方家长：尊重和理解孩子的心理和选择

西方家长普遍认为孩子从出生那天起就是一个独立的个体，有自己独立的意愿和个性。无论是家长、老师还是亲友，都没有特权去支配和限制他的行为，在大多数情况下都不能替孩子做选择，而是要使孩子感到他是自己的主人，甚至在什么情况下说什么话，家长都要仔细考虑，尊重和理解孩子的心理。

●中国家长：支配欲强，要求孩子顺从自己的意愿

而中国家长则大都要求孩子顺从、听话。

（六）鼓励孩子创新和探索

●西方家长：鼓励创新鼓励探索

西方家长“鼓励创新”，而中国家长往往“满足于克隆”，前者鼓励孩子去超越前人，后者教导孩子在前人面前止步。

西方家长相信孩子具有同成人一样的独立研究、独立动手的能力，能以宽容的心态去营造一个利于培养孩子创造力的环境和氛围。他们对孩子所做的种种探索行为往往持积极、肯定的态度，鼓励孩子在生活中提出不同的见解，并对其中的疑问进行积极的探索。

即使家长认为孩子的某一行为并不具有积极的效果，他们也不会过多地干涉，而是让孩子在自己进行的探索中逐渐认识到自己的问题，并予以纠正。

●中国家长：往往满足于“克隆”

中国家长对孩子的探索活动大部分是持否定态度的。他们往往把孩子自己进行的“探索活动”视作“胡闹”而加以制止。

例如美国孩子拆了家里的闹钟，若能装回，多数家长会称赞孩子，若是装不回，许多家长会与孩子一道把闹钟装上，甚至鼓励孩子再拆、重装一次。但中国孩子若拆了家里的闹钟，就算自己能装回，恐怕也没几个敢告诉家长的。

孩子往往在家长的严格管教下被熄灭了创造性火花。

篇二：中西方家庭教育的差异及原因

中西方家庭教育存在的差异及原因

一位西方著名人士说，他小时候，妈妈买了一些苹果，兄弟两个都想吃最大的哪个。他的妈妈就笑着说：“你们来比赛，我把门前的草坪分成2块，你们2人一人一块各自负责修剪，谁干的最快最好，谁就能得到它。”结果他赢了，并懂得了一个道理：要想得到好的，就必须努力争第一。这很公平，你想要多少，就必须为此付出多少代价！

而一个中国犯人也说道，小时侯，他的妈妈拿来几个苹果，大小不等。他一眼就看中了那个又红又大的，这时弟弟说了他想说的话，结果被妈妈骂了一顿:“好孩子要学会把好东西让给别人，不能总想着自己。”那个犯人就灵机一动改口说:“我要那个最小的，把大的留给弟弟。”结果他受到了妈妈的奖励。从此以后，他学会了说谎，然后开始不择手段。

同样是分苹果，但结果却不一样。外国的那位母亲选择了让孩子用自己的双手来获取自己想要的东西。而那位中国母亲，却让孩子用虚伪的话来换取他们心中想要的东西。通过这则小故事，我们可以看到中西方的家庭教育是存在差异的，像这样的小故事还有很多，其目的都是表现中西方家庭教育的差异。下面就简单列举一些中西方在家庭教育方面

的差异。

西方家长普遍认为孩子从出生那天起就是一个独立的个体，有自己独立的意愿和个性。无论是家长、老师还是亲友，都没有特权去支配和限制他的行为，在大多数情况下都不能替孩子做选择，而是要使孩子感到他是自己的主人，甚至在什么情况下说什么话，家长都要仔细考虑，尊重和理解孩子的心理。而中国家长则大都要求孩子顺从、听话。

西方家长一般都相信孩子具有自我反省和教育的能力，孩子要自己劳做，自己生活，从劳做中得到快乐，从动手中获得各种知识，学习各种技能。孩子能做到的，就让他自己做，这是对孩子的尊重。比如在西方有很多这样的情形：父亲或母亲在前面走，刚刚学会走路的孩子跟在后面走。他们认为这对孩子独立性的培养十分重要。中国的家长生怕孩子磕着碰着，往往要抱着或拉着孩子走。

西方人巴望孩子成名成家的观念相对比较淡薄，他们并不煞费苦心地设计孩子的未来，而是注重孩子的自由发展，努力把孩子培养成为能够适应各种环境，具备独立生存能力的社会人。他们的家庭教育是以培养孩子富有开拓精神、能够成为一个自食其力的人为出发点的。基于这种观念，西方国家的很多家庭都十分重视孩子从小的自身锻炼。他们普遍认为，孩子的成长必须靠自身的力量，因此从小就培养和锻

炼孩子

的自立意识和独立生活能力，例如从孩子小时候就让他们认识劳动的价值，让孩子自己动手修理、装配摩托车，分担家里的割草、粉刷房屋、简单木工修理等工作。

中国的许多家长望子成龙心切，因而超越孩子实际水平的高要求、拔苗助长的教育方式、恨铁不成钢的态度在家庭里到处弥漫。在孩子的成长过程中，除生活上加倍关心外，家长最关心的是孩子的学习。为使孩子学习成绩好，将来“光宗耀祖”，学习之外的事情家长都不让孩子干，似乎学习好就是万能的，而对孩子的独立生活能力、社会适应能力、心理健康程度、道德情操以及公民意识等则关心甚少，有的甚至完全不顾。从孩子出生到成年，家长几乎把孩子的一切都包了下来，做饭、洗衣服、打扫、攒钱供孩子读大学、出国、结婚、养儿育女等。尽管我们的家长都希望孩子成才、幸福，而这样的家庭教育既不可能令孩子成才，也难以让孩子得到幸福，因为社会的竞争，决不仅仅是知识和智能的较量，更多的是意志、心理状态和做人的比拼。

西方家长重视从日常行为与情感中对孩子进行“做人的教育”，注重从内心情感去尊重别人，看重的是日常生活的行为与习惯的培养。而我国家长往往脱离孩子心理发展的实际，例如幼儿园时就提出爱国主义、革命英雄主义、伟大

理想主义的教育，忽视基础的行为习惯、良好的人际交往等与孩子发展阶段相适应的“做人的教育”。我们一直谈教育要循序渐进，这不仅适用于智力教育、知识教育，同样适合于做人做事的道德教育。现在我们的孩子道德观念淡漠，社会性发展差，这与家长忽视对孩子最基础的“做人教育”不无关系。

西方家长“鼓励创新”，而中国家长往往“满足于克隆”，前者鼓励孩子去超越前人，后者教导孩子在前人面前止步，相信这也是目前为止没有中国人活得诺贝尔奖的原因之一。西方家长相信孩子具有同成人一样的独立研究、独立动手的能力，能以宽容的心态去营造一个利于培养孩子创造力的环境和氛围。

从以上的对比中我们不难看出，中西方的家庭教育从宏观到微观都存在着显著的差异。存在这种差异的个根本原因，应该是两国文化的差异，中国是传统的大陆性农业文化，这种文化培养了中国老百姓温厚善良、仁爱和平的名族性格，人们向往安居乐业，怀着一颗知足常乐的心。这种文化经过几千年的传承，已经在人们心中根深蒂固。相比较而言，西方是一种海上文明，这种文化培养了西方人的个人主义冒险精神和自由竞争的意识。人们根深蒂固的思想影响着家庭教育的方式。

虽然西乡的家庭教育方式在很多方面表现出来其优越性，但我们并不能因此完全否定自己的教育方式，我们所要做的是取长补短，在保持自己的优良传统的同时，借鉴西方的长处，以此发展自己。

篇三：中美家庭教育差异论文(英文版)

* * * *大学

课程论文

（20**-20**学年*季学期）

论文题目：A Comparative Study on Family

课程名称：跨文化交际策略与技巧

任课教师：****

班级：123

学号：123

姓名：123

日期：20**年*2月*0日

A Comparative Study on Family Educationin America and China

Abstract: In a lifetime , family is the first

school , in which parents are the first teachers for the children . Children are the hopes of a nation , and family education is the elementary education for children . There are many types of family education in the world and each of them shows distinctive features and is closely responsive to its culture . And American family education is the most famous one among them1 . There are great differences in the concepts of education , aim of education , methods of education and contents of education between American family education and Chinese family education . This thesis will complete the comparative study from the differences , the reasons and the results of family education between America and China . The author hopes to find a satisfied family education method through comparing the differences between American family education and Chinese family education . At the same time , the author hopes this thesis can provide some helpful suggestions for family education in order to make children grow more healthily and roundly .

Keywords: family education childeren differences education for all-around development

Main Body:

Ⅰ.The differences of family education between America and China:

1. The concepts of family education are different .

The different education concepts between America and China lead children to receive differert education . In China , many parents only care about whether the children have a promising future , a good job , a good life or not . Based on these expectations , the majority of parents feel that their responsibility for their children is to create as good conditions as possible they can so that the children will not worry about anything in the future2 . Chinese parents would like to provide everything what they can for their children in the process of children’s growth . In short , they would like to sacrifice anything if their children can live better with their help . Therefore, in the process of children’s growth, the most important thing the parents concerning is to develop their children’s intellect , except for caring children’s daily life .

In order to make their children have a good performance in study , become outstanding , or even become a famous person in the future ,

they would not let children do anything except studying . Contrastively , American parents generally believe that the growth of childeren must rely on their own strength and experiences. Based on this concept , most American parents emphasize more to train their children’s ability of independence once (来自: 小龙文档网:中西方家庭教育差异的英语演讲)they are born because they think that children should form a self-supporting will and the capacity to live independently since their childhood . And the capacity comes from the training in the early age3 .

In the film 《Gua Sha Treatment》4 , there is a scene that Datong orderded his son to apologize to his boss’s son when his saw his son was fighting with his boss’s son . What’s more , he slapped his son in the face when his son refused to apologize , which gave his boss aquite a shock . His boss became confused why the father would show the regret by striking his son . This

scene and the boss’s confusion reflect the different concepts between the two countries . Traditonal Chinese family education emphasize kindheartedness and bedience5 , so we can say that Chinese parents like Datong in the film always want to model their children . On the contrary , America children have more rights of autonomy because their parents emphasis on justice and freedom in the process of family education .

2. The aim of family education are different6 .

The aim of family education is to foster the childeren to grow in some direction by family education . It is the restrictive factor for the direction of family education , deciding the general effect of it . So the aim of family education is the core of family education and the fundamental reason for the differences between the two countries on family education .

There is an essential difference between two countrys’ aim of family education , with to expect the child to become an outstanding personage and to hope the child to be an comprehensive and independent person giving expressions to the difference . To most Chinese

parents , the aim is expecting their child to be a “ dragon ” , which is “ wang zi cheng long ” in Chinese . But American parents take hoping the child to be a man of ability which is “ wang zi cheng ren ”in Chinese as their aim . For Chinese parents, their aim is to do anyting to support their children to get high marks . What forms apparent contrast to it is , America parents give their children more training about improving abilities . They try to train their children to have the ability of adapting to environmental variety and the ability of living independently .

3. The methods are different between America and China .

The differences of concepts and aim cause the childen to be taught by different ways and methods . In Chinese family , affected by Chinese traditional culture , parents educate children by “ control ” and “ seal ” type . There are three tips for it 7:

(1) Chinese parents prepare all things for their children in daily life . In Chinese family , children don’t have to do any housework .

(2) Chinese parents protect the children to excess in social activities . Many children are

prevented from exposure to the outer world because their parents worry about children’s being affected by bad things 8.

(3) Chinese parents have a rather strict attitude toward children’s study . Parents regard the grades as the only standard for future success . “Tasks Sea ”strategy is often used in study . Chinese children are tired of doing many extra exercises .

So Chinese children spend more time in studying than doing other things . What about America children ? Let’s talk about the famous film 《The Pacifier》9. In the film , it may be unconcious , but Shane Wolfe had let the kids master many skills by training them during the time when he cared them . So American parents bring up their children by the method of “ letting go ” but “ not indulging ” to exercise children’s abilities of independent living .

4. The different contents of family education between America and China .

The differences of family education between the two countries are also reflected in the contents of family education . Although the contents of Chinese family education can also devided into moral education , intellectual education , physical education and artistic education , but intellectual education has been the most important one since they go to school . However , the contents of American family education is abundant , which pay more attention to the harmonious development of language , emotion , knowledge and so on . It is so-called “education for all-around development 10” .

Ⅱ.The reasons for the differences mentioned above:

1. Different historical background11

China with a long histroy has a sort of cohesive and conservative sense of worth , which is lack of spirit of adventure and innovative consciousness . There is a shortage of environment in which people can

accept new ideas . By contraries , America is a nation of immigrants with a short history , there remains so little traditional culture . With the influence of multi culture and sense of

worth , it is easy to accept new thoughts and culture . So America children are better at taking risks and innovating .

2. Different economic form

China has a long histroy with a large population .Therefore , there are so few opportunities to find a job even a good job which can decide one’s life happiness . And getting high marks has become a necessary condition to have a good job and future . The condition of econemy in America is better than that in China , so there are more employment opportunities in America . American parents think profession is not distinguished whether it is noble or nidering as long as they can survive in society .

social conditions

So far , social security system and old-age care

have not been perfect in China . Many Chinese parents take their children as their private possession in order to receive the children’s return , which is reflected in the methods of education . For this reason , their children’s high scores have become their origin of pride . But in America , there is a prosper development of econemy and sane social security system , so American parents don’t count on their children’s support . They see educating child to be an independent , conscientious and kindhearted person as their duties .

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In China , people advocate collectivism which emphasize the collective interests more important than personal interests . Therefore , Chinese parents usually replace children’s interests by their own wills and thoughts . They design children’s future standing in the adult angle . What’s more , in Chinese family , parents can raise their children in the lifetime . However , stressing personality , upholding individual development and caring about personal benefit are all