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Never, Never Give Up 永不言弃

We often hear people say, “Never give up.” These can be encouraging word s and words of determination. A person who believes in them will keep tryi ng to reach his goal no matter how many times he fails. In my opinion, the quality of determination to succeed is an important one to have. Therefore, I believe that we should never give up.

One reason is that if we give up too easily, we will rarely achieve anyt hing. It is not unusual for us to fail in our first attempt at something new, so we should not feel discouraged and should try again. Besides, if we alwa ys give up when we fail, we will not be able to develop new skills and gro w as people. Another reason we should never give up is that we can learn from our mistakes only if we make a new effort. If we do not try again, th e lesson we have learned is wasted. Finally, we should never give up becaus e as we work to reach our goals, we develop confidence, and this confidenc e can help us succeed in other areas of our lives. If we never challenge our selves, we will begin to doubt our abilities.

In short, it is important that we do not give up when working for our goals. Whether we succeed in the end or not, we will learn something, and what we learn will help us to become better, more confident people. Furth ermore, if we give up, we have non chance of attaining our goals, but if w e keep trying, there is always a chance that we will succeed one day.

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永不放弃

我们常听到人们说:“永远不要放弃。”这句话可能是要鼓励别人,也可能是表示自己的决心。相信自己的人,不管经历多少次失败,都会不断试着要达到目标。我认为,有成功的决心是每个人都应该有的重要特质。因此,我认为我们应该永不放弃。

其中一个理由是,如果我们太轻易放弃,就几乎无法完成任何事。我们第一次尝试新事物会失败,这是很平常的事,所以我们不应感到气馁,而应该要再试一次。而且,如果我们总是一失败就放弃,就无法培养新技能并且不断地成长。我们应该永不放弃的另一个原因是,只有再努力一次才能从错误中学习。如果我们不再试一次,那么我们所学到的教训就白白浪费了。最后,我们应该永不放弃,因为当我们努力达到目标的时候,我们就会培养出自信,而这种自信将有助于我们在生活的其他领域中获得成功。如果我们不挑战自我,我们就会开始怀疑自己的能力。

简言之,当我们努力追求目标时,永不放弃是很重要的。不管最后有没有成功,我们都会学到一些东西,而我们所学到的东西,将会使自己成为一个更好、更有自信的人。而且,如果放弃的话,我们就没有机会完成目标,如果我们不断尝试,总有将来某天成功的机会.

Never Give Up Hope

Life doesn't always give us the joys we want. We don't always get our hopes and dreams, and we don't always get our own way. But don't give up hope, because you can make a difference one situation and one person at a time.

Look for the beauty around you--in nature, in others, in yourself--and believe in the love of friends, family, and humankind. You can find love in a smile or a helping hand, in a thoughtful gesture or a kind word. It is all around, if you just look for it.

Give love, for in giving it you will find the power in life along with the joy, happiness, patience and understanding. Believe in the goodness of others and remember that anger and depression can be countered by love and hope.

Even when you feel as though there isn't a lot you can do to change unhappiness or problems, you can always do a little--and a little at a time eventually makes a big difference.

Hope is always available to us. When we feel defeated, we need only take a deep breath and say, "Yes," and hope will reappear.

永不放弃希望

生活并非总是如你所愿。希望有时会落空,梦想有时会破灭,我们不能一切随心所愿。但别放弃希望,因为事物并非一成不变;不同时间,不同场合,你会呈现不同的面貌。

处处留心你身边的美丽:自然中的美,他人的美,你自己的美。请相信,美来自朋友、家庭乃至全人类的融融爱意。一个微笑,一双援助之手,一个关心的举止,一句友善的话语,无不传达着爱。如果你有心去寻找,爱无所不在。

奉献爱心吧,从中你会发现生活的力量,感受生活带来的幸福快乐,学会忍耐和理解。相信人性本善。记住,爱心和希望能化解一切愤怒和沮丧。哪怕生活中挥之不去的不快和困难将你重重包围,让你力不从心,但你仍可以尽力而为。累积点滴努力,最终你将扭转乾坤。希望一直就在我们身边。当我们遇到挫折时,请深呼一口气并对自己说:我可以做到!

Love Your Life 热爱生活

Henry David Thoreau/享利.大卫.梭罗

However mean your life is,meet it and live it ;do not shun it and call it hard is not so bad as you looks poorest when you are fault-finder will find faults in your life,poor as it may perhaps have some pleasant,thrilling,glorious hourss,even in a setting sun is reflected From the windows of the alms-house as brightly as From the rich man’s abode;the snow melts before its door as early in the do not see but a quiet mind may live as contentedly there,and have as cheering thoughts,as in a town’s poor seem to me often to live the most independent lives of be they are simply great enough to receive without think that they are above being supported by the town;but it often happens that they are not above supporting themselves by dishonest should be more poverty like a garden herb,like not trouble yourself much to get new things,whether clothes or friends,Turn the old,return to do not change;we your clothes and keep your thoughts.

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不论你的生活如何卑贱,你要面对它生活,不要躲避它,更别用恶言咒骂它。它不像你那样坏。你最富有的时候,倒是看似最穷。爱找缺点的人就是到天堂里也能找到缺点。你要爱你的生活,尽管它贫穷。甚至在一个济贫院里,你也还有愉快、高兴、光荣的时候。夕阳反射在济贫院的窗上,像身在富户人家窗上一样光亮;在那门前,积雪同在早春融化。我只看到,一个从容的人,在哪里也像在皇宫中一样,生活得心满意足而富有愉快的思想。城镇中的穷人,我看,倒往往是过着最独立不羁的生活。也许因为他们很伟大,所以受之无愧。大多数人以为他们是超然的,不靠城镇来支援他们;可是事实上他们是往往利用了不正当的手段来对付生活,他们是毫不超脱的,毋宁是不体面的。视贫穷如园中之花而像圣人一样耕植它吧!不要找新的花样,无论是新的朋友或新的衣服,来麻烦你自己。找旧的,回到那里去。万物不变,是我们在变。你的衣服可以卖掉,但要保留你的思想。

You are my soul mate;the one who could set my heart on fire with just

one look.

你是那用一个眼神就可以点燃我心火的灵魂伴侣!

More than anything in this world I want to spend the rest of my life with you.

和你共渡餘生,比任何一件事都重要!

Baby, as long as we keep each other in our heart, our love for each

other will never apart. 只要我们将彼此放在心中,我们的爱就永

不分离

How can I be so to have you in my life. You've made me a

strong and happy person.我如此幸运能拥有你,你使我成

為勇敢又快乐的人

To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

对于世界而言,你是一个人;但是对于某人,你是他的整个世界。

Don't try to hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.

不要着急,最好的总会在最不经意的时候出现。

Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.

不要因为结束而哭泣,微笑吧,为你的曾经拥有。

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不管欢乐重现脸颊或者, 悲伤的海洋漫溢, 那只是一场游戏,一场梦幻。 a play- we each have a part each one to weep or laugh as may; each one his dress to don- alternate shine or rain. 我们都是戏中的角色, 人人都尽情地欢笑啼哭, 每个人都轮换穿着, 晴日或雨天的衣裳. thou dream, o blessed dream! spread far and near thy veil of haze, tone down the lines so sharp, make smooth what roughness seems. 你的梦,受祝福的梦, 到处掩盖着薄雾似的面纱, 将尖锐的线条变得柔和, 让粗糙的外表变得平滑 no magic but in thee!

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一、来自你身体的一封信 Hi! It's your body here! Allow me to reintroduce myself. 嗨,我是你的身体! 允许我再自我介绍一下。 I'm the home that you've always lived in. Surely you remember. We grew up together! 我是你一直住着的“家”。 你肯定记得我, 我们一起长大的。 And I'm writing in this letter cause, I feel neglected in this relationship, very disappointed in what I've been seeing. 我写这封信是因为, 我感觉我在这段关系里被忽视了。 我对我所看到的很失望。 With your ambition to make money you sacrificed my well being, which makes no sense in the least because when I get sick you sacrificed that same money

to recuperate ME. 你有想挣钱的雄心, 却为此牺牲我的健康。 这完全不合理, 因为如果我病了, 你赚的那些钱都要用来给我治病! And what's even more ironic is with all your interest in profit you can't even see the truth that I'm worth over A BILLION DOLLARS. 更讽刺的是, 你利欲熏心, 甚至看不清这个事实: 我才是最宝贵的啊! Don't believe me? Okay I'll prove it. 你不相信? 好吧,我证明给你看。 If someone came to you with a check for One Million and said “Here. All I want in return is your eyesight.”

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经典英语美文短篇:爱母亲甚于爱自己 说明和注解:丁克威 这是一篇动情之作,读完后掩卷而思:母亲的胸怀是博大的,母亲的心灵是至纯的,母亲的爱是无私的。然而我们对于母亲的报答又有多少? 文章语言朴素简单,相信作为中学生的你能轻松地读下来。读到佳句妙语处,真希望你能把它记下来、背下来。 Those Childhood Days When you came into the world, she held you in her arms. ?hold somebody in one’s arms: 把某人抱在怀中 You thanked her by weeping your eyes out. ?weep one’s eyes out: 痛 哭;大哭 When you were 1 year old, she fed you and bathed you. ?注意bathe在此处用作及物动词,意为“给……洗澡”。 You thanked her by crying all night long. ?all night long:整夜;如 说“整天”则是all day long。 When you were 2 years old, she taught you to walk. ?可说teach somebody to do something(教某人做 某事) You thanked her by running away when she called. When you were 3 years old, she made all your meals with love. ?do something with love: 带着爱意/心做某事。 You thanked her by tossing your plate on the floor. ?toss: 抛投。When you were 4 years old, she gave you some crayons. ? crayon: 蜡笔。 You thanked her by coloring the dining room table. ?color在此句中用作动 词,表示“着色”。When you were 5 years old, she dressed you for the holidays. ? dress: 给……穿衣。 You thanked her by plopping into the nearest pile of mud. ?plop: 扑通一声地掉下去。 When you were 6 years old, she walked you to school. ?注意walk在此处用作及物动词,意为“陪……一起走”。

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超级经典的英语短文美文赏析 一、 Everyone has that period in which they find those who are close to them start to seem annoying . 每个人都会经历这样的时期:发现身边那些亲近的人开始变得有点烦了。 You suddenly realized that they've always been talking and talking. 你会突然意识到,长久以来他们就一直不停地在说啊说。 They never stopped. 他们从来就没有停过。 Some of us get angry with them, thinking they are trying too hard to intervene in our lives. 我们中的有些人,会开始变得愤怒,觉得他们对我们的生活介入太多。 But don't. 但是,请不要愤怒。 Only those who really care about you will bother saying so much to you. 只有那些真正关心我们的人才会费劲对我们说这么多。 It's just that maybe they don't know the right way to put it. 只是,他们可能并不知道正确的相处办法。 Some of them push too hard because they care too much. 他们中有些人逼得太紧,那是因为他们太在乎。 Some of them speak too much because they worry about you too much. 他们中的有些人说得太多,那是因为他们太担心你。 They do this because they love you. 他们这么做,都是因为爱你。 So don't push them away. 所以,不要将他们拒于千里之外。 Just find a way to let them know what you truly want. 去找一个办法告诉他们你真的想要的是什么吧。 And let them grow with you. 并且去让他们和你一起成长。 That will make both of you happy.

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Sun smile 阳光般的微笑 The sun shone brightly on the ground in front of her feet as she pondered the reality of light. 太阳光芒四射地照耀这她脚前这片大地。她在沉思,思考着阳光是怎么一回事: How did light get here? Who made it and why? 它是怎么来到这儿的?谁让它来的?来做什么? She instinctively stepped into the sun spot and instantly felt warmer, brighter, and fuller of life and energy. 她下意识地踏进阳光里,整个人立刻觉得暖和,清醒起来,浑身充满了生机和活力。 The sun wrapped her in comfort and stability for, if nothing else,she could always count on the sun waking her up most mornings. 阳光笼罩着她,她感到很舒服很踏实,如果没有其他事情,大多数早晨,她都会让阳光叫她起床。

Its predictable radiance felt like the mother she never had as her childhood was characterized more so by pain and heartache than comfort and love. 太阳那如期而至的光芒就像妈妈一样,虽然她从来就没有感受过母爱,她的童年记忆里满是痛苦和伤心,而不是关怀和爱。 She stepped out of the sunlight and felt that all-too-familiar anxious pang in the pit of her stomach as she remembered how horrible it was to live in her childhood home. 她从阳光里走出来,一阵再熟悉不过的恼人的悲痛袭击了她的胸口,让她回忆起童年时的可怕生活。 Memories flooded her mind as she unsuccessfully tried to block them out by thinking good thoughts. 她努力朝好的方面想,希望能抵挡住如洪水般泛滥的痛苦回忆,但是无济于事。 Oh how she wished she could curl up in the middle of the sun and allow its love to encase her for all eternity. 她是多么希望可以蜷缩在温暖的阳光里,让太阳的爱包裹着她直到永远。 But, no, she was stuck here on earth with those who didn't feel the sun's rays the same way she did,who didn't feel deeply connected to this amazing source of life. 然而,这是不可能的。她只能在这儿,和其他人一起。其他人不像她一样渴望阳光,也不曾觉得自己与这神奇的生命之源有什么紧密联系。 All she could do was stand in the sun on occasion and shut out the rest of the world for a little while. 她唯一能做的就是偶尔站在阳光里,和阳光以外的世界短暂地隔离。 Maybe if she stood here long enough they would cease to exist. 她想也许只要一直站在阳光里,外面的世界也就不复存在了。

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